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Put Prayer on the Agenda

Posted by Debby on January 18, 2016

Have you ever been at a meeting where you talked about the need to pray the entire time, but then ran out of time to actually pray? When our women’s leaders get together for our monthly meeting, we have found it useful to have an agenda printed out prior to the meeting. There are many great reasons to create an agenda for the meeting. Women’s Ministry Toolbox recently had a blog which addressed the need for an agenda. I think the main points were well covered there.

But I’m going to add one thing that should always be on your agenda….prayer. Intercessory prayer should be a priority on the schedule at each meeting. Prayer for your meeting, prayer for your women and upcoming ministry events and prayer for one another. We have a very precious two hours allotted for our meeting, and the minutes can fly by with business we need to discuss. If we are not careful, it can be time to close and we barely have five minutes left for prayer.

Put prayer on the agenda; allot time for it at the beginning of your meeting. It is the most important item on the agenda!

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Numbers Aren’t Everything!

Posted by Debby on January 12, 2016

We just had our first women’s event of the new year. Some say it was scheduled a little too close to the holidays. I don’t know if that was true–we scheduled it early in the year in order to “start the new year off” with a special time of ministry. We had planned a lovely “mug and muffin brunch” with a guest speaker. But sign-ups were low. Perhaps it was too close to December and all of the busyness and traveling associated with the holidays. Maybe we missed some opportunities to promote the event, but we made up for that with personal invitations by mouth and via email. Nevertheless, attendance was less than two-thirds that of a similar event held in August.

We prayed diligently for the event and those attending, we had bulletin announcements and talked about the event with those we ran into at church. Perhaps we could have done more. As women’s ministry leaders, we will discuss what could have been done differently. But you know what? In the end, those who were meant to be there were there. After you have done all you know to do, you need to leave the results up to God. This is true in our own lives, but also true in ministry.

Our event was a huge blessing to those who attended, and God moved among us in a very special way. Numbers aren’t everything!

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What Women Look Forward to at a Retreat

Posted by Debby on August 18, 2015

I recently did an informal survey among our women who regularly attend our retreats. One thing I wanted to find out was what they most look forward to in attending a ladies’ retreat. I loved the answer given by one of our ladies: “The best part of all retreats for me is when God shows up in some really personal and meaningful way.” Another woman added “I love the retreats because the Lord always either speaks to my heart, refreshes my soul and/or I get to see Him do this in another women’s life.” Many of those who responded referenced the time a retreat provides for them to seek God away from the distractions of a busy home life. To me, those answers sum up the purpose of a retreat–providing a time away from the distractions of “life” so that women can devote themselves to seeking and hearing from the Lord.

The informal survey gave women to opportunity to rate elements of the retreat in order of what was important to them. You might think that the women choose to attend the retreat based on the guest speaker or friends who are also attending. But those who come year after year were consistent in mentioning these as their top three:

Time of worship
Teaching and special speaker (“I want to get the meat of the Word at a retreat”)
Promise verse (“I look forward to my promise scripture, because even if it doesn’t speak to me at that time, it always does within the year that it was given to me.”)

Consistently within the top five were: Workshops and quiet time, and Free time and fellowship.

What do you look forward to at your retreats?

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Make a Timeline

Posted by Debby on August 3, 2015

A timeline, or retreat planning calendar, is basically a schedule of what needs to be done by when in the planning of an event. It is wise to plan 9 to 12 months ahead of time. For a smaller event, 3 to 6 months may be sufficient. A longer timeline is helpful for smaller groups where individuals carry a bigger load. Planning a year in advance is not too soon, especially when speaker and venue availability is an issue.

It is a little like being pregnant! You have a 9-month deadline and have a list of things that need to be done before the date arrives. Based on that “due date,” you plan accordingly, and you know how much time you have before the “big day” arrives. There are things you can do almost immediately and things that will have to wait until just prior to the event.

When making your event timeline, begin with any cut-off dates that you have with the venue where the event will take place. Hotels, as well as other venues tell you the final date when they need to receive your list of attendees, which helps them plan for rooms and meals. These deadlines help you know how much time you have to plan and when to start and end registration. For example, if the hotel rooming list is due on November 1 for our November 12 retreat, I know that I need to schedule registration to end before that day and give myself time to make room adjustments. I also need to determine how many weeks our women will have to sign up, and coordinate church and bulletin announcements. So, in the above scenario, where the rooming list is due on Nov. 1, registration would begin in mid-September and end at the end of October, when final payment would be due.

Nov. 12 RETREAT
Nov. 1 Hotel requires rooming list
Oct. 25 End retreat registration
Sept.15 Begin retreat registration

This is the core of your retreat planning calendar. Other due dates and related events can be added to this as you go, helping to keep your planning on schedule.

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Tender Mercies

Posted by Debby on June 9, 2015

You may have noticed that my efforts to put out a weekly blog have fallen part in the last few months. Today, I’m going to take a little extra time to share my heart with you, my faithful readers, so please be patient with this longer-than-normal blog.

In February of this year, we lost our precious and irreplaceable pastor’s wife, Denise, who also was the heart and leader of the women’s ministry at our church. I, along with our women’s leadership team and so many others, have lost not only our leader and teacher, but an intercessor, prayer partner, mentor, friend and confidant. She is pictured and mentioned in the “about” section of the Retreat-in-a-Bag website, and was a huge supporter of our efforts to share what we have learned over the years of women’s ministry.

I have been called upon to step up and lead the women’s ministry, something that was never on my radar. While I hope that none of you ever go through a transition like this in your ministries, I want to share from my heart the tender ways that God has been ministering to us. Our loss was devastating, and all of our women’s leaders are still grieving; it would have been easy just to let things slide for a little while. Yet God has us moving “onward” despite the great hole left in our hearts.

May I share with you a few of God’s tender mercies to us during this time?

Back in February, our women’s Bible study was finished our verse by verse study in the book of Habakkuk. Habakkuk had seen the coming devastation of his people and had remembered His past deliverance. He recognized that great loss was inevitable in his future. Do you remember how Habakkuk finishes his message? He declares that no matter what loss he faces, he will choose to rejoice in the Lord. He will move forward in faith and in God’s strength, not stuck in the valley but with deer’s feet on the high hills. These verses were a sweet and timely comfort and encouragement from the Lord to our ladies.
Another mercy was His drawing together our leadership team in an even closer bond of love and support. When we gathered together, I looked around at a group of women who each had faced their own set of either health crises or difficult circumstances in the past year, and yet we drew together as one in our commitment to continue Denise’s loving legacy to our women’s ministry. That unity and support for one another was a tender mercy at a time when no doubt all of us felt that we had lost the wind beneath our sails.
Back in February, we were also just beginning to plan for our annual fall women’s retreat. We had the retreat center reserved, but were in the process of praying about the speaker and theme. Out of the blue, we were given the sweet gift of a retreat theme, special speaker and worship leader being more or less “dropped” in our laps without effort on our part. As I think about this upcoming retreat “Deeper Still”, I have no doubt that this is God’s gift to our women during this difficult year–that in our sorrow, He is calling us to a deeper walk with Him.
As I have been praying for direction for the women’s ministry studies and events for the remainder of this year, my quiet time has taken me through the Psalms and Proverbs. God spoke to my heart through an unexpected proverb–Proverbs 14:4, which says “Where no oxen are, the trough is clean; but much increase comes by the strength of an ox.” The NLT records it like this: “Without an ox, the stable stays clean, but you need a strong ox for a large harvest.” In other words, if you don’t have an ox–sure, life will be easier in some ways; you won’t have to clean the stable and you’ll avoid the inconveniences and cost of caring for the needs of an ox. But weigh that against the advantage of having an ox that will bring much increase in the long run. What is God saying? In His tender way, I believe He is saying–Yes, you can keep your calendar clear and not schedule anything extra for your ladies. But consider the benefits and blessings-yes, even the harvest– you may be missing

Thanks for letting me share today. My testimony is that our God is faithful. He cares for you, and He cares for your ministry. Are you or your ministry going through a dark valley? He wants to minister to you in your dark hours. Look for those sparkling gems of God’s tender mercies!

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