How do I find the skit I need?
Ahh! That’s the challenge, isn’t it?! This is part of the reason we started writing our own skits years ago–so that the skit would contribute to the overall theme of the retreat. From that ensued the creation of the Retreat-in-a-Bag website where these resources could be shared. This led to the writing our Retreat-in-a-Bag book series and, subsequently, to the Retreat Guides, all of which give you direction in creating a themed retreat or event with supporting elements centered on the particular themes.
But is it truly necessary that you have a skit that follows your retreat theme? No, I don’t think so. What I have observed over the years is that women look forward to a break from intense concentration. A skit can provide a time of entertainment and laughter in the midst of more serious teaching, prayer, etc. Simply put, inserting a skit in your schedule just provides a nice change of pace.
I know there are ministries that simply add a frivolous skit for entertainment value. And I can see that would be fun. But…why not have a skit about the importance of a quiet time (a free downloadable one-act skit called “Good Intentions”)? It is meaningful, and applicable, even if it doesn’t specifically relate to your theme. Take a look at some of our free, downloadable one-act skits, or some of the series skits (where each skit stands alone) if you just want to add a fun, yet meaningful, ingredient to your retreat or event schedule.
Depending on the size of your women’s ministry, you probably have ladies of all ages and stations in life–not to mention differing personality types. It can be overwhelming to consider the variety of women in your care, and all the issues and relationships that they represent. Take a look below at this incomplete list of women that probably are in your church:
- Single (never married, divorced, teens, widowed)
- Married (newlyweds, with kids, without kids, etc.)
- Working professionals
- Stay-at-home moms
- Moms of teens/prodigals
- Empty nesters
- Women with an unbelieving spouse
- Different cultures
- Those dealing with chronic illness and pain
- Those dealing with addictions (past or present)
- Those in financial crisis
- (this list never ends!)
Now all of those can be multiplied by various ages and races represented, as well as all of the relationships each represents. It would be impossible for me to come up with a way to minister to this variety of women!
But God is not overwhelmed. His Word encompasses and can speak to all of these women where they are at, no matter what challenges they face. So if you are teaching God’s Word faithfully, it is truly up to Him to use His Word to minister personally to each individual. So if I can’t provide the perfect program or event for moms, or those struggling with addictions, God is not limited by my limitations.
Out biggest calling is just to love any woman He puts in our paths.
Women rarely announce that they are new, or that they are attending their first-ever retreat or women’s event. Attending a first retreat or event can be daunting, particularly if one is also new to the church and yet to get acquainted with women. It takes a lot of courage to attend an event where you know no one!
I would suggest that you identify those first-timers, and look for other indicators that she is stepping out of her comfort zone to attend your retreat or event. This may not be as easy as just looking for names you don’t recognize among those who have registered. You can ask each woman as she registers if they have attended a retreat in the past, or put a box on the registration form for the woman to check if this is her first time to attend a retreat. Upon registration, if a roommate is not designated, that could indicate that she doesn’t know anyone to ask to be her roommate.
Once you have identified the women who are new:
- Assign someone to call the woman before the retreat to answer questions and see if she has special needs or needs a ride to the retreat;
- Inform the greeters at the retreat so they can give her a special welcome upon her arrival and introduce her to others;
- Assign a “room hostess” to be their roommate and to sit with them at the retreat.
Have you thought of other ways to welcome those who are new?
Our retreat is less than a week away. We have spent weeks in preparation and registration for the event. We are looking forward to our guest speaker. We are anxious about details. You probably know the drill.
But pretty soon, the big weekend will be here. Listen to these words from “Steal My Show” by TobyMac:
If you wanna steal my show
I’ll sit back and watch you go
If you got something to say
Go on and take it away
Need you to steal my show
Can’t wait to watch you go oh oh oh
So take it away.
YES! That’s what we want. We want the Holy Spirit to come and “steal the show” and we’ll sit back and watch Him go. We’ve done all we can…but He is the only One who can take our feeble efforts and use the weekend to transform lives.
They are all around us–the “we know a better way” folks. We all have those women who, from their vantage point, always know a “better way” to do the things we are doing. Often, their ideas and suggestions are valid, and could be helpful in the right time. But it does seem that these women are never available in the planning stages–but are more than happy to step up and offer their opinion after the ball is already rolling. You have a plan for decorations, and are busy implementing that plan…and along comes that person who knows a better way and has a better idea.
What is your response going to be? I know it’s frustrating, and it’s tempting to see their input as criticism of what your are doing. We can’t give in to the response our flesh would like to give! Instead, be kind, be graceful, be loving. A simple “we’re going to do it this way this time” should suffice, followed by an invitation to be a part of the process for the next event.